Nostalgia- From a Different Point of View

I talked to Cambria's birthmom twice in the past week.  She is pregnant again, and is placing Cambria's birth sibling for adoption.  This has hit me harder than I thought it would.  I hope that I can have some contact with the new adoptive family so the siblings can have contact when they are older.

Anyways, she was talking about things leading up to the placement of Cambria.   Nostalgia- from a different point of view.  It is so interesting to hear how things were going for her while at the same time remembering how I was jumping around like a crazy fool throwing my stuff into a suitcase and racing to the airport!  She was so sad knowing she was going to place her sweet daughter into another family's arms and I was so ecstatic with the news that I was finally going to have a daughter to love and cherish...and spoil.  ;)
She was worried that after the last family withdrew from the match, that she wasn't going to find another adoptive family.  I was so worried that she was going to change her mind and parent.
I did tell her birthmom that although it sucked for her birthmom to have the match disrupted so close to her delivery date, that I'm glad the other family backed out because I get to have Cambria as my daughter.  I also said that I sometimes think about this other adoptive mother and say what she is missing out on by not getting to raise Cambria...because she is the most amazing baby girl.  Besides me- right, mom?!  :)

I'm not sure if I had mentioned this on this blog before, but she was matched with a different family for several months, and they had to withdraw from the match at the last minute.  So then we got the call.  2 days before she went into labor.  How weird and scary it must have been for Cambria's birthmom to suddenly lose the security she felt with having this adoptive family picked out for all those months, and have that disappear in an instant.  And then POOF! this new family shows up (she picked us, but still....she didn't know us for very long at all).  I have heard many people's opinions on the openness of our adoption...some think it is great to have this open of a relationship, and others tell me that I should make it more closed.  I am trying to do right by her birthmom.  Especially since she didn't know us for very long before she placed her baby in our arms forever.  It's like we are building the relationship after the fact....getting to know each other after we brought her daughter home to be our daugther.  And every time I talk to her, I learn a little more about her birthmom, her extended birth family and the pregnancy.  More things to tell Cambria when she is older.....cuz I know she's gonna want to know.  

Maybe I'm naive....I sort of think that if I have this open adoption and the information about her adoption and birth family is always available from day one to Cambria (her birth parent's picture is on her dresser), that when she is 18 she won't think of her adoption as mysterious and suddenly run off and try and reunite with her birth family and live happily ever after....because she'll have grown up knowing them all along.

Anyways- I ordered Cambria's 1st birthday outfit for her party today.  OMG- so cute!