The kids were recently on spring break. We went to Phoenix for a few days to soak up some up the sunshine there. Then I got really sick with a bad bronchitis and flu symptoms! So we canceled our trip to Vegas for the end of Spring Break and came home and I camped out on the couch coughing my brains out for 4 days.
Anyways, I kept thinking about the fact that 5 years ago, on spring break, we were in San Francisco meeting an expectant mom who was making an adoption plan for her daughter. We were matched with her since January and she was due in May. We (Dave, our oldest two sons and I) met her, her husband and her 3 kids at the hospital she was going to deliver at. We all got along famously, so well. The kids got along and the adults got along. This baby was the original Cambria. We really liked her and her family and were all excited about the upcoming delivery in May. However, I remember one thing that made Dave and I uneasy was that they hadn't told their children about the upcoming adoption. I'm not sure who their kids thought we were!
Then Dave and I took our kids around San Francisco doing fun, touristy things and eating at our favorite restaurant there, The House of Prime Rib. We also went ice skating. The weather was not great- rainy and dark and dreary skies. But we still had fun on our trip and were glad to meet the woman we were matched with.
She went into labor a month later in April, earlier than her due date. We scrambled to throw clothes in a suitcase and get ready to head to San Francisco. All the flights that day were full, so we ended up driving the 12 hour drive there. A few things had happened the previous week and we were again uneasy with the adoption. We got to the hospital and met this cute little baby girl and while I don't want to go into details, it just did not feel right. A few other things that happened at the hospital raised some concerns and made us raise an eyebrow. Dave and I talked and talked and he had to head home early to go to work, and we talked all the while he was in the shuttle on the way to the airport. My exact words to him were, "I don't think I can do this." And we both had that sinking feeling in our stomachs that this was not the right adoption situation for us. I talked to my mom and my BFF about it. Then we called the adoption agency and told them the news. I couldn't believe that after wanting a daughter for so long, that we disrupted this match. It was devastating and still is to some degree. I still haven't been back to San Francisco since that fateful day in April 2011. The birth mother and the adoption agency were mad at us. Hell, Dave's own SIL was mad at us for backing out, and that was her lame excuse for never accepting my daughter Cambria into the family! (Sound crazy? As if she should get to dictate who I adopt and then take it out on an innocent little baby!) Read my previous posts about the SIL situation if you don't know what I am referring to. To this day, D's brother thinks that was a rational and valid excuse for his wife and daughter and even himself to have nothing to do with my daughter, their niece and cousin- because she had infertility issues and thought we should have adopted that baby no matter what. Sigh..... The whole situation was traumatic and D and I didn't want to talk about it and all the details at first. I cried everyday for months. My sons cried over the loss of this baby sister they thought they were going to have. I slept with the baby's blanket for a month and cried myself to sleep. We live in a small town, and didn't want the whole town knowing all the details. Some things should be kept private and sacred. Besides, it was too painful for me to talk about. Now that I have my daughter and almost 5 years have passed, I am finally ok to go back to San Francisco for a visit. I've seen pictures of the original Cambria, and she is so beautiful. However, I don't think she was meant to be my daughter and I feel she is with the family God had intended her to be with all along. I look at my daughter and I think she is absolutely the daughter God meant for me to have. I just wish he didn't put us through that test and I wish other people's feelings didn't have to get hurt in the process. We never meant to cause the birth family in San Francisco any pain. I feel bad to this day that the whole thing went down the way it did.
We took some time off of adoption after that failed placement. We tried to convince ourselves adoption just wasn't in the cards for our family. But after some time, I realized I did want a baby, but I wanted the baby and adoption situation that was right for everybody involved. So I got back to the search and signed up with some other agencies, including one who I think just took my deposit money and had no intentions of matching us with an expectant mom. I think that agency is closed now. We agreed that if we weren't matched by the end of 2012, that we were going to move onto other things in our lives. I got a call when I least expected it in September saying we were matched and our baby was born 2 days later! (A lot of people I have talked to said they got "The Call" when they least expected it.) I would be lying if I didn't have fears that I would get that same feeling at the hospital that this adoption situation wasn't right, either. My mom said as I was heading to the airport, "Let's hope you come home with a baby this time." We didn't tell a soul outside of my parents and kids that we were heading to NC to meet our baby! I finally told a few people while we were there for 10 days waiting for IC.PC to clear and we were given the go-ahead to come back home with our daughter. I couldn't face everyone with the news if the adoption fell through again. After the 10 days was up and we were cleared to fly back home, I posted a picture of her on FB with the caption, "Meet my daughter!" Everyone was like, "What???!" They asked why we didn't tell them sooner. I laughed and said I myself had just found out 12 days earlier that we were matched! I had to fly out separately because once again this baby came a few weeks early! ;) I met my daughter and her birth mom and paternal birth grandma and cousin all at the same time at the hospital! I kept praying they would all like me and not back out. I spent the next 10 days praying her birth mother wouldn't change her mind. That is how I knew she was meant to be my daughter. Her birth mother signed the relinquishment paperwork 2 days after she was born, and in NC they have 7 days after that to change their mind. Gosh, time has never moved so slow as it did during those 7 days! When Cambria's adoption was finalized, I remember reading the paperwork and crying so hard- tears of joy that I could barely read the words on the court papers. I was holding her in my lap and reading the adoption paperwork at the same time, and I kissed her and said, "You're my daughter forever!" I was a blubbering mess, a happy mess! Ha! That was one of the greatest days of my life. But if you think about it, adoption always means loss to some people in the triad. My daughter and her birth mom lost their legal ties to each other that day. My daughter was obviously too young to understand what my tears meant. I didn't tell her birth mom when the adoption was finalized. I didn't want to cause her more pain and sadness. She never asked. I would have told her if she had asked. I read a lot of adoption blogs where the birth mother is upset that she wasn't notified when the adoption was final. Cambria's birth mom never brought it up.
My daughter is officially 3.5 years old today. I can't imagine my life without her in it. It was a long bumpy road to meet her, but I'm glad we didn't give up. She was meant to be my baby girl. God just had a different path for us to take to make it happen. To this day, her birth mom says she doesn't regret her decision. Sure, she would have liked to be in a place in her life to get to raise her, but she feels she made the best decision. Open adoptions can be hard and a lot of work sometimes, but I think they are also rewarding. I am happy that her birth family gets to watch her grow up across the country and that neither my daughter or her birth family will ever have to wonder or worry about how the other is doing. They can pick up the phone and call or text or send a FB message and ask.
~Wishing everyone a happy and blessed Easter. xo
Wednesday, March 23, 2016
Monday, March 14, 2016
March 2016
I can't believe this month is almost half over already! My middle son turned 11 recently. Yikes did those 11 years go by fast. I had a terrible high-risk pregnancy with him, but he is such a great kid. He was born the earliest out of all 4 kids. And I think he will be the tallest kid! Out of my 3 pregnancies, his was the only epidural that worked properly! That's why I decided to go ahead and try for a 3rd baby! Lol!
We are finally going to get to meet my new nephew soon! I'm so excited! He is so cute!
Baseball season has just started, so I will be busy at the baseball field all the time. Dave managed to not be an assistant coach for any of our sons' teams this year (not sure how that happened!), so he can actually sit in the stands with me and be a spectator parent! :)
The kids are all doing well in school. Cami likes preschool. It is so cute to see her making little friends! What is even cuter is watching her play mommy to her baby dolls! She is so loving and sweet to them!
Our open adoption is still going pretty well. Cambria asked me if I was pregnant the other day- I laughed and said no. (I had a hysterectomy so it is impossible.) I just ate too many cupcakes! Anyways Cambria stuck out her tummy and said she had a baby in there like "J" (her birth mom) and that she was going to give "J" the baby like "J" gave Cambria to us. I told her she did not have a baby in her tummy and she was too young. But on a basic level, she understands that she grew in another woman's tummy and that other woman "J" gave Cambria to us to raise. And how sweet was that of her to say she was going to give "J" a baby just like "J" did for us?
Cambria's birth mom said that a family member that was upset with her destroyed her belongings, including all the pictures I had sent of Cambria to her over the years. I was almost as sad as she was. I want her to have pictures. And I spent so much time over the years getting those pictures taken and printed and mailed to her. I did send her some doubles that I had found around my house. I didn't have very many doubles of baby pictures though, and I told her I'd look for some and mail them to her. She can see pictures on Facebook, but it's not the same as having pictures to hold in your hands.
Cambria got to talk to her birth mom on the phone last month. It wasn't on FaceTime or Skype, so Cambria's attention span wasn't as good not being able to see who she was talking to. I hope that didn't make her birth mom sad.
Well it's late and the kids go back to school tomorrow after being on spring break this past week, which means an early morning for all of us.
Happy March!
We are finally going to get to meet my new nephew soon! I'm so excited! He is so cute!
Baseball season has just started, so I will be busy at the baseball field all the time. Dave managed to not be an assistant coach for any of our sons' teams this year (not sure how that happened!), so he can actually sit in the stands with me and be a spectator parent! :)
The kids are all doing well in school. Cami likes preschool. It is so cute to see her making little friends! What is even cuter is watching her play mommy to her baby dolls! She is so loving and sweet to them!
Our open adoption is still going pretty well. Cambria asked me if I was pregnant the other day- I laughed and said no. (I had a hysterectomy so it is impossible.) I just ate too many cupcakes! Anyways Cambria stuck out her tummy and said she had a baby in there like "J" (her birth mom) and that she was going to give "J" the baby like "J" gave Cambria to us. I told her she did not have a baby in her tummy and she was too young. But on a basic level, she understands that she grew in another woman's tummy and that other woman "J" gave Cambria to us to raise. And how sweet was that of her to say she was going to give "J" a baby just like "J" did for us?
Cambria's birth mom said that a family member that was upset with her destroyed her belongings, including all the pictures I had sent of Cambria to her over the years. I was almost as sad as she was. I want her to have pictures. And I spent so much time over the years getting those pictures taken and printed and mailed to her. I did send her some doubles that I had found around my house. I didn't have very many doubles of baby pictures though, and I told her I'd look for some and mail them to her. She can see pictures on Facebook, but it's not the same as having pictures to hold in your hands.
Cambria got to talk to her birth mom on the phone last month. It wasn't on FaceTime or Skype, so Cambria's attention span wasn't as good not being able to see who she was talking to. I hope that didn't make her birth mom sad.
Well it's late and the kids go back to school tomorrow after being on spring break this past week, which means an early morning for all of us.
Happy March!
Monday, February 29, 2016
Happy Leap Day!
It's that time again...once every 4 years! Happy Leap Day! Enjoy the day and make the most of the extra time! I'm always saying "I wish there were more hours in the day." Well here's an extra 24 hours!
I can't believe 2 months are almost over of this year. I got some sad news yesterday. My college roommate's husband passed away on Saturday. I do not know what he passed away from. He retired from the marines and NY.PD. He escaped from 9/11 without a scratch. Someone had asked him that morning to drive them to the twin towers but he had been working the night shift and someone else offered to give that person a ride instead so he could go home and sleep...and that other person died in the nightmare of 9/11. We were roommates when she started dating him. I was in their wedding. My hubby went to the wedding too....it was so long ago (their 20 year anniversary would have been this June) that my hubby and I were still dating at the time! I am so sad. This news hit me pretty hard. I don't think he was sick beforehand. But I haven't heard any details just that he passed away and she said it was devastating. They have 2 kids. One in college and one in high school. I was saying how shocked I was, and my husband reminded me that he (my husband) almost died about 6 years ago. My youngest son was only 4 months old at the time he got sick, and it lasted about 2 years. That was a hard time for my family. But we came out on the other end ok and we grew our family and added a daughter afterwards too. We are the lucky ones. I wish I could go to the funeral, but they are in New York.
In other big news, I gave up FB for lent. I read things occasionally on there, but no posting or commenting. My oldest son starts high school in the fall. We have been busy trying to decide which high school he will go to. Baseball tryouts happened recently so that means I will live at the baseball fields 7 days a week! Zack's travel team plays games on Saturdays and Sundays and between the 3 boys, practices will be most days from Monday-Saturday. But I secretly love it!
Now it's time to start working on me again and working out and eating healthy and getting back into shape. Time to "leap" off of this computer! Haha!
I can't believe 2 months are almost over of this year. I got some sad news yesterday. My college roommate's husband passed away on Saturday. I do not know what he passed away from. He retired from the marines and NY.PD. He escaped from 9/11 without a scratch. Someone had asked him that morning to drive them to the twin towers but he had been working the night shift and someone else offered to give that person a ride instead so he could go home and sleep...and that other person died in the nightmare of 9/11. We were roommates when she started dating him. I was in their wedding. My hubby went to the wedding too....it was so long ago (their 20 year anniversary would have been this June) that my hubby and I were still dating at the time! I am so sad. This news hit me pretty hard. I don't think he was sick beforehand. But I haven't heard any details just that he passed away and she said it was devastating. They have 2 kids. One in college and one in high school. I was saying how shocked I was, and my husband reminded me that he (my husband) almost died about 6 years ago. My youngest son was only 4 months old at the time he got sick, and it lasted about 2 years. That was a hard time for my family. But we came out on the other end ok and we grew our family and added a daughter afterwards too. We are the lucky ones. I wish I could go to the funeral, but they are in New York.
In other big news, I gave up FB for lent. I read things occasionally on there, but no posting or commenting. My oldest son starts high school in the fall. We have been busy trying to decide which high school he will go to. Baseball tryouts happened recently so that means I will live at the baseball fields 7 days a week! Zack's travel team plays games on Saturdays and Sundays and between the 3 boys, practices will be most days from Monday-Saturday. But I secretly love it!
Now it's time to start working on me again and working out and eating healthy and getting back into shape. Time to "leap" off of this computer! Haha!
Tuesday, January 26, 2016
I'm an Auntie!
Extra extra! Read all about it! I FINALLY became an auntie yesterday! My brother and SIL had a baby yesterday. They didn't find out the gender until the delivery. What the what?! Hello impatient me! I had so many ultrasounds with each pregnancy that waiting until he delivery to find out the gender was pretty near impossible. I knew I was having 3 boys way before I even had the ultrasound! HA! And so of course I predicted my brother would also be having a boy and I was right! My dad has 4 brothers and no sisters so I guessed boy. Our family doesn't make too many girls! Anyways I was right! My cute nephew was born yesterday. I am so excited. I am excited for my brother and SIL to be a family of 3. I am excited that I am finally an auntie! I am excited that my kids finally have a cousin! I cannot wait to meet him. They live in another state so hopefully we can make it out there soon.
I felt kind of weird having my adoption friends see my post of their new baby. The adoption friends with no biological kids. That can be painful to see that. I'm sure they would like to bring a baby home from the hospital without looking back over their shoulder constantly wondering if the birth parents were going to change their mind and take the baby back. No stress other than hoping the baby is healthy. Oh well you can't fault people for being able to have biological children. I've said before that I am happy to have grown my family both ways....I have been blessed with biological and adopted children. After having biological children, I knew just how much birth moms sacrifice when they place a baby for adoption. That bond is so great the minute the baby enters the world. That means a lot when a birth mom entrusts you with her baby forever. Something else noteworthy happened- their new baby did not make me want to have another. I had that feeling for so many years. It finally went away. I am happy and content with my family. And I am utterly thrilled for my brother and SIL. My nephew weighed more than my brother, my kids or I did! LOL! Big healthy baby with cute chubby cheeks!
I mentioned that I am finally an aunt and my kids finally have a cousin. If you've been reading my blog, you might be thinking "but you are already an aunt and your kids do have a cousin already".
Technically, that is true. But since "those people" have chosen for whatever crazy reason they have concocted to not acknowledge my children and pretend they don't exist, they don't really count as relatives anymore. :(
I am so excited to meet my new nephew!
Now....let the spoiling by this auntie begin! ;)
I felt kind of weird having my adoption friends see my post of their new baby. The adoption friends with no biological kids. That can be painful to see that. I'm sure they would like to bring a baby home from the hospital without looking back over their shoulder constantly wondering if the birth parents were going to change their mind and take the baby back. No stress other than hoping the baby is healthy. Oh well you can't fault people for being able to have biological children. I've said before that I am happy to have grown my family both ways....I have been blessed with biological and adopted children. After having biological children, I knew just how much birth moms sacrifice when they place a baby for adoption. That bond is so great the minute the baby enters the world. That means a lot when a birth mom entrusts you with her baby forever. Something else noteworthy happened- their new baby did not make me want to have another. I had that feeling for so many years. It finally went away. I am happy and content with my family. And I am utterly thrilled for my brother and SIL. My nephew weighed more than my brother, my kids or I did! LOL! Big healthy baby with cute chubby cheeks!
I mentioned that I am finally an aunt and my kids finally have a cousin. If you've been reading my blog, you might be thinking "but you are already an aunt and your kids do have a cousin already".
Technically, that is true. But since "those people" have chosen for whatever crazy reason they have concocted to not acknowledge my children and pretend they don't exist, they don't really count as relatives anymore. :(
I am so excited to meet my new nephew!
Now....let the spoiling by this auntie begin! ;)
Friday, January 1, 2016
Happy New Year 2016!
I cannot believe it is 2016 already! This year 2015 was a blur it went by so fast! It was better than 2014. The 2 family members with cancer (one human family member, one furry family member!) finished chemo (and also radiation for the human family member) and they are both in remission. YAY! Such wonderful news! Also, my brother got married in February, and it was a very fun, nice wedding. They are pregnant and expecting my first niece or nephew (I'm going to guess the baby is a boy!) in 3 weeks!! I am so excited to finally be an aunt and for my kids to have a cousin!! Well, technically I have a niece by marriage and my kids technically have a cousin, but she has chosen to have nothing to do with any of my kids and has still never acknowledged that my 3-year-old daughter is even alive and on this planet. Can you imagine? She is in her 20's and at this point I am ashamed to technically be related to her and her parents, for that matter. My friend posted something today about the new year and her motto for the new year is going to be Let That Shit Go! I think I need to also adopt her motto!! ;)
Anyways, we are excited for my kids' real cousin to arrive!!
What a year this has been! I have sucked at blogging. So much going on with the kids and their activities and family vacations. I still haven't figured out how to post pictures from this computer. Some highlights from the year have been:
~ Zachary making the All Star baseball team and his team winning the district championships for the 3rd year in a row and at the state tournament, he hit a home run which tied up the game and at his next at bat got a single which enabled them to win the game and not be eliminated from the tournament. They eventually lost, but coming from a small town, they did great! He also tied for the most home runs in the spring little league season! He also held the record for striking out the most batters when he was pitching! He got straight A's last year and this year so far. He won an award for most enjoyable to coach player at a baseball camp this summer.
~Jacob switched to a new, more rigorous school this year and did fantastic and got on the honor roll twice (top 15% of his class) and was one of two boys to make the middle school basketball team! He also was in the guitar club and played at the Christmas concert at school! Jacob did a great job snorkeling in the open water in Maui...... watching the videos afterwards did freak out his grandmother and me! Lol!
~Joshua also switched to a new, more rigorous school this year and did fantastic and got in the 90's club (90% or higher average in all classes). Joshua went hiking with the big boys (mine and our friends' kids) in Hawaii this summer and jumped off cliffs into lakes! I was not there to witness this, thank goodness! Daddy was in charge that day! He also went snorkeling with his brothers and my hubby and me in the open water in Maui and did great!
~Cambria was in her very first dance recital in May (and technically so was I since it was mommy-and-me dance class!) We danced to "Here Comes the Sun" and it was so much fun! She did great and our dance class ended up in the newspaper! ;) She is also doing better in swim lessons and loves the water!
~Fun trips included many to Phoenix/Scottsdale, attending Diamondbacks and Suns games, stay-cations at fun resorts, trips to Maui and Oahu, Las Vegas, and California- L.A. and San Diego and visiting LegoLand (Cami's birthday request!), Sea World, Disneyland and California Adventure. We also had fun times visiting family and friends.
I wish everyone a happy and healthy new year 2016 full of laughs, love and good health.
Anyways, we are excited for my kids' real cousin to arrive!!
What a year this has been! I have sucked at blogging. So much going on with the kids and their activities and family vacations. I still haven't figured out how to post pictures from this computer. Some highlights from the year have been:
~ Zachary making the All Star baseball team and his team winning the district championships for the 3rd year in a row and at the state tournament, he hit a home run which tied up the game and at his next at bat got a single which enabled them to win the game and not be eliminated from the tournament. They eventually lost, but coming from a small town, they did great! He also tied for the most home runs in the spring little league season! He also held the record for striking out the most batters when he was pitching! He got straight A's last year and this year so far. He won an award for most enjoyable to coach player at a baseball camp this summer.
~Jacob switched to a new, more rigorous school this year and did fantastic and got on the honor roll twice (top 15% of his class) and was one of two boys to make the middle school basketball team! He also was in the guitar club and played at the Christmas concert at school! Jacob did a great job snorkeling in the open water in Maui...... watching the videos afterwards did freak out his grandmother and me! Lol!
~Joshua also switched to a new, more rigorous school this year and did fantastic and got in the 90's club (90% or higher average in all classes). Joshua went hiking with the big boys (mine and our friends' kids) in Hawaii this summer and jumped off cliffs into lakes! I was not there to witness this, thank goodness! Daddy was in charge that day! He also went snorkeling with his brothers and my hubby and me in the open water in Maui and did great!
~Cambria was in her very first dance recital in May (and technically so was I since it was mommy-and-me dance class!) We danced to "Here Comes the Sun" and it was so much fun! She did great and our dance class ended up in the newspaper! ;) She is also doing better in swim lessons and loves the water!
~Fun trips included many to Phoenix/Scottsdale, attending Diamondbacks and Suns games, stay-cations at fun resorts, trips to Maui and Oahu, Las Vegas, and California- L.A. and San Diego and visiting LegoLand (Cami's birthday request!), Sea World, Disneyland and California Adventure. We also had fun times visiting family and friends.
I wish everyone a happy and healthy new year 2016 full of laughs, love and good health.
Sunday, December 6, 2015
December Already?
How can it be December already?! November was a blur. Zack finished up with his fall travel baseball season. Jacob finished up with his weekly baseball camps....14 weeks long. He loved it. Then Jacob made the middle school basketball team. Zack is done with organized basketball...did not want to play on a team anymore. In his defense, he is not super tall like Jacob is. He is way better at baseball. None of my boys played soccer this fall. First time since Zack was 4 that my car hasn't driven to the soccer field every Saturday during the fall! Gotta admit...it was kinda nice. ;)
Joshua did swimming lessons. Cambria does swimming lessons and dance class. Zack and Jake are doing guitar lessons. Zack goes to middle school youth group at our church. Joshua is going to Catholic catechism classes. He is making his 1st Reconciliation this year. He is also in the chess club at school. ;)
Thanksgiving was fun. The kids had Wednesday through Friday and the following Monday off of school. We went to California and had Thanksgiving dinner with my parents, brother, and new SIL. They are pregnant and due with my niece of nephew in January!! It is killing me that they are waiting until the delivery to find out! I am so impatient! I mean, it helps that my hubby is a radiologist and could tell the gender the minute the ultrasound tech scanned over that area! But anyways. I am going to take a guess and make a prediction and say the baby is a boy. My SIL told me they are only going to have one baby. I don't know how true that is, but if this baby is a boy then my parents will have all biological grandsons and no biological granddaughters. I don't think this matters to them. I'm just making a statement. They love my daughter exactly the same as my sons. Anyways, we went to Legoland (Cambria wanted to go as part of her birthday present!), Sea World, then to Dave & Buster's with my BFF from med school and her kids are similar ages to my kids, and then to Disneyland and California Adventure for 2 days. Busy! Whirlwind trip, but fun.
This blog is so lame because I can't seem to post pictures. If you could see a picture of my daughter, oh my goodness she is so beautiful. She is spunky and funny. My boys are getting so tall! My oldest has braces and they are already working their magic...his teeth look so good already and he still has like 15 months more to go! My dog Sophie who had her leg amputated for osteosarcoma bone cancer and had chemo is doing well. One year cancer free! I love that dog.
Life is fun and hard at the same time. My to-do list is a million miles long every day, but the kids are busy doing fun things and I manage to squeeze in some time with my hubby and family and friends. What more could I ask for? (Besides good health for everyone I know and love.)
If I don't get a chance to blog again before Christmas (which is a good possibility), here's wishing everyone a blessed holiday season full of laughter and love and good health and a splendid new year 2016.
Joshua did swimming lessons. Cambria does swimming lessons and dance class. Zack and Jake are doing guitar lessons. Zack goes to middle school youth group at our church. Joshua is going to Catholic catechism classes. He is making his 1st Reconciliation this year. He is also in the chess club at school. ;)
Thanksgiving was fun. The kids had Wednesday through Friday and the following Monday off of school. We went to California and had Thanksgiving dinner with my parents, brother, and new SIL. They are pregnant and due with my niece of nephew in January!! It is killing me that they are waiting until the delivery to find out! I am so impatient! I mean, it helps that my hubby is a radiologist and could tell the gender the minute the ultrasound tech scanned over that area! But anyways. I am going to take a guess and make a prediction and say the baby is a boy. My SIL told me they are only going to have one baby. I don't know how true that is, but if this baby is a boy then my parents will have all biological grandsons and no biological granddaughters. I don't think this matters to them. I'm just making a statement. They love my daughter exactly the same as my sons. Anyways, we went to Legoland (Cambria wanted to go as part of her birthday present!), Sea World, then to Dave & Buster's with my BFF from med school and her kids are similar ages to my kids, and then to Disneyland and California Adventure for 2 days. Busy! Whirlwind trip, but fun.
This blog is so lame because I can't seem to post pictures. If you could see a picture of my daughter, oh my goodness she is so beautiful. She is spunky and funny. My boys are getting so tall! My oldest has braces and they are already working their magic...his teeth look so good already and he still has like 15 months more to go! My dog Sophie who had her leg amputated for osteosarcoma bone cancer and had chemo is doing well. One year cancer free! I love that dog.
Life is fun and hard at the same time. My to-do list is a million miles long every day, but the kids are busy doing fun things and I manage to squeeze in some time with my hubby and family and friends. What more could I ask for? (Besides good health for everyone I know and love.)
If I don't get a chance to blog again before Christmas (which is a good possibility), here's wishing everyone a blessed holiday season full of laughter and love and good health and a splendid new year 2016.
Tuesday, November 3, 2015
Phone Call
Yesterday Cambria's birth father's mother (her paternal birth grandma) texted me and asked me to call her last night. It was the first time I've spoken with her since we left the hospital 3 years and 1 month ago. Sure, we have texted and messaged on Facebook and mailed each other pictures, but haven't spoken on the phone since the hospital in NC. We had a great conversation and got along well, she said she enjoyed talking to me and to call her again if I wanted and we could chat. :)
She said she loves getting the pictures of Cambria and to give her a hug and a kiss from her. I have always referred to her as Grandma and then her first name. I don't think my mom or MIL were upset by that. I hope not. Because she is technically my daughter's grandmother and the more people who love and care about her, the better. She told me she is so happy we are raising Cambria and Cambria seems so happy. I told her that if I was being perfectly honest, I was happy and grateful that she was so supportive of the adoption. She could have had her son contest the adoption and helped him raise Cambria like she is doing with 2 of her other grandchildren. I told her that had me a little scared until the adoption was finalized that they might take her back. She said she thought about raising her before she met me, and then when she met me in the hospital she told her husband that she loved me, and that I was the perfect mother for Cambria.
Oh my goodness. Cue the tears! Thank goodness this wonderful woman was in my corner!
She said she loves getting the pictures of Cambria and to give her a hug and a kiss from her. I have always referred to her as Grandma and then her first name. I don't think my mom or MIL were upset by that. I hope not. Because she is technically my daughter's grandmother and the more people who love and care about her, the better. She told me she is so happy we are raising Cambria and Cambria seems so happy. I told her that if I was being perfectly honest, I was happy and grateful that she was so supportive of the adoption. She could have had her son contest the adoption and helped him raise Cambria like she is doing with 2 of her other grandchildren. I told her that had me a little scared until the adoption was finalized that they might take her back. She said she thought about raising her before she met me, and then when she met me in the hospital she told her husband that she loved me, and that I was the perfect mother for Cambria.
Oh my goodness. Cue the tears! Thank goodness this wonderful woman was in my corner!
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