Today is Birth Mother's Day. It is the day before Mother's Day. Which is perfectly fitting. Without birth mothers, there wouldn't be mothers. So they should be honored first.
I'm thinking about Cambria's birth mother J today. I am so, so thankful and grateful that she chose us to parent her child. I am so in love with my daughter and feel blessed every day for this gift that she gave us. J follows me on Insta.gram, so I posted a picture of her holding and looking at Cambria in the hospital on IG. I am usually fiercely private about her, but she said it was ok to post the picture.
Open adoption will have its bumps along the road, but I'm glad we're on the journey.
Happy Birth Mother's Day to all the birth moms out there. Please know that we adoptive parents love and respect you for your sacrifice you made. You made the most selfless decision to put the needs of someone else (your child) above your own needs....you endured heartbreak to give your child the life you wanted for them with another family. I've had 3 biological children, so I know that maternal bond and love that happens the instant you see your own flesh and blood. It is magnetic. I've been at the same place in the hospital as you on the day of discharge with the baby strapped in his/her carseat for the first time ready to go home and experience their first car ride....only it is at that point that we took different turns at the fork in the road. I went home with my baby, and you went home alone and most likely devastated. I can't imagine. You are far stronger than I am. Please know that we adoptive parents truly appreciate you giving us a chance to be parents and do something for us that we couldn't do for ourselves. I wish you didn't have to go thru so much pain in the process.
The interesting thing is, when I saw my adopted daughter for the first time, I fell madly in love with her the same way I did with my biological sons. Instantly. I loved her so much that I started to panic and worry every day until our adoption was finalized that the birth parents were going to decide to take her back. I love her so much and couldn't bear the thought of losing her and not being able to see her everyday. And yet, you carefully and thoughtfully made the decision to place her for adoption with another family even though you knew it would hurt like hell, but you did it for your child....to give them exactly the life you wanted them to have but knew you couldn't provide at that time in your life. I am awestruck by your insight and bravery and maturity and love for your child.
Thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Happy Birth Mother's Day.
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