Spring Break!

I had said in a few posts back that I was going to try and not dwell on my SIL and her ridiculous, self-centered, narcissistic behavior.  I've actually been doing pretty well!  (Believe it or not!)  Someone sent this little poster to me today on FB, and I am posting it here because I think it is so true.  It is tied to my resolution to not dwell on her behavior and "misunderstanding" me.  I can waste hours and hours being upset and/or trying to talk to her and trying to make her see my point of view, but it won't matter.  She is committed to "misunderstanding" me.  She is incapable of putting herself in anyone else's shoes, especially someone who she has wronged.  She will never admit that she has ever done anything wrong, so I've had to take a step back and learn to be OK without ever receiving that apology.  Since I posted about it last, I've actually been happier and not so upset?angry?affected?pissed off? about her behavior towards me and my family.  And it feels so much better.  

I always thought if I stopped being upset about her antics, then that meant that I forgave her and essentially gave her permission to treat me like crap.  If I stopped bitching about her bad behavior, that that meant I was basically saying it was OK that she was like that.  But actually, that's not true.  I'm not saying it's OK.  I'm saying that's how she is, and I have to just let it go for my own happiness.

Interesting little tidbit....her only child is moving to another country in a few months!  D's SIL has stage-4 cancer, and her only child is moving out of the country.  If that were me, I would be upset if any of my children moved out of the country when my stage-4 cancer came back.  I'm actually gonna give her a pass on this one and bite my tongue.  Karma is a bitch.  And I don't want to mess with Karma.

OK onto a happy topic.....Cambria's birthmom J and I were texting the other day.  She texted me and said she couldn't thank me enough for keeping Allana in contact with her.   Yes, she still calls Cambria by the name she named her on her original birth certificate.  What can I do about it?  I think she misses the baby she knew who was Allana, rather than the 17-month old baby named Cambria.  I reminded her that we promised to have an open adoption with her when we were at the hospital, and I intend to keep that promise!  That's the kind of person I am- I am honest.  And I wear my heart on my sleeve (If that wasn't painfully obvious!  lol)

And.....yesterday was the last day of the 3rd quarter at school.  I'm pretty sure that Zack and Jake both got straight A's!  Yeah! 

We are on spring break!  Let the springing and breaking begin??  No!  That's not how it goes!  lol!  Let the fun, rest and relaxation begin!  That's more like it!  :)