I have really made a conscious effort to not dwell on the bad behaviors of D's SIL and let her poor treatment of me and my husband and children ruin my day. In fact, I texted her last week and said I was thinking of her and hoped she was doing well. {GASP! Say what?!} Well, of course she didn't reply. I talked to my real SIL (I am referring to Dave's sister..... I no longer refer to D's SIL as my SIL) and happened to mention that I texted D's SIL and never heard back. She told me that she heard from her, and she said her phone was broken & just got it fixed. So of course everyone wants to give D's SIL the benefit of the doubt. I said I'm sure she got my text, because the very next morning she texted my real SIL and told her about her phone being broken and finally got it fixed. I decided to give her one more chance, and I texted her today and told her I had texted her last week, and how D's sister told me her phone was broken and I was wondering how she was doing. And oh, BTW did they get the invitation to my son's birthday party which is this Saturday?
No reply. Of course. D's SIL is attached to her cell phone just like I am....kind of a lifeline. She is just proving that she is purposely avoiding me- even when I am being nice and thoughtful. And I know that her phone is now fixed, because she texted my SIL from it last week.
So if I ever talk to her or D's brother again, and they start this crap about how D's SIL feels like we have forgotten her, I will not hold back. I will tell her how we have made efforts to text her and even see her, and she avoids us like the plague now. So she doesn't get to have it both ways.
They have ignored my kids for so long now, that my son hasn't even bother to ask if his aunt and uncle are coming to his birthday party. I don't think he even cares, because they have been such a non-presence in his life for so long. Sad. So sad.
But instead of me getting all worked up and pissed off and hurt about D's SIL ignoring me, I find myself giggling at her immaturity. What the heck must be going thru her head that she thinks it's OK to treat people like this and then whine that we have forgotten her?!
Yep, I'm giggling. What a funny show she is putting on for everyone to see. Sad show, but funny. Especially since this time last year she was turning 50 and giving me grief because we missed her 50th birthday party. I'm giggling because she needs to grow up.
Oh well, I have better things to do like get ready for my son's birthday bash on Saturday. A Minecraft party, of course!
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Monday, March 24, 2014
Spring Forward
This is a little something funny for my East coast and midwest friends, who keep getting hammered with snow this winter (and spring!). This doesn't really apply to me because I live in beautiful AZ.
I love how the bird is wearing a North Face jacket and has a Sbux cup in its hand!
I love how the bird is wearing a North Face jacket and has a Sbux cup in its hand!
Sunday, March 23, 2014
God Knows Us So Well.
I am so terrible about writing on this blog! And my picture-posting skills are even worse! If I can't post pictures directly from my cell phone, it's way too much effort!
Anyways, the other day I was at my workout class, and I just realized one of the girls in my class works at my hair salon. She was saying how cute my new haircut is (I had loooong hair half-way down my back, and now it is in an A-line bob). I was telling her it was kind of a necessary haircut, because my hair had been falling out and it was also snapping and breaking off. All my bloodwork has come back normal. She says, "Well, it's probably falling out after the birth of your daughter."
Lol I looked at her and said, "Well, that's a great explanation, except for that we adopted her."
You should have seen the look on her face! Her jaw hit the ground! "She's adopted?? She looks....." and I cut her off and said, "Just like me, yes I know. Weird, huh!"
And besides, Cambria turned 18 months old today, and isn't that a little old to be blaming hair falling out on childbirth/hormones? Ahhh, if only the explanation would be that simple!
And then I was at a birthday party with Cambria yesterday. Her first princess birthday party that she was invited to- and not her brothers! The party was for the other girl in town with the same name, and C had so much fun there! She ran around playing the whole time and was giggling and laughing. It was so cute to watch her there! So one of the other moms who I know a little bit & am FB friends with asked me if we used an egg donor with C, because she looks just like our family. I'm assuming she meant that we must have chosen an egg donor who looks like our family and plus it would be Dave's biological child.
The funny thing is....before C came along, I had gone to the infertility specialist a couple times, and was going to do IVF but they strongly recommended that we use an egg donor. I picked out our egg donor, and she looked nothing like Dave, me, or our sons. So it's funny that while we didn't care if our baby looked like us, that we ended up with this precious baby girl that looks like us.
Why didn't we go through with the IVF you might be asking? The egg donor was in another cycle with another couple, and so we had to wait until she was done and recovered from their cycle to start our cycle. After having time to think and wait, D said he would prefer we adopt. Is that interesting or not? He would prefer to adopt where the child would have no biological relation to either of us (and thus, an even field of sorts) rather than do IVF with an egg donor, and the child would be biologically his. And then after having my hysterectomy last May, my reproductive organs were in bad shape. The feeling was I would have not have gotten pregnant with IVF and wasted that money.
It is all in God's hands. You make plans, and God laughs. He knows. He knows us so well.
Anyways, the other day I was at my workout class, and I just realized one of the girls in my class works at my hair salon. She was saying how cute my new haircut is (I had loooong hair half-way down my back, and now it is in an A-line bob). I was telling her it was kind of a necessary haircut, because my hair had been falling out and it was also snapping and breaking off. All my bloodwork has come back normal. She says, "Well, it's probably falling out after the birth of your daughter."
Lol I looked at her and said, "Well, that's a great explanation, except for that we adopted her."
You should have seen the look on her face! Her jaw hit the ground! "She's adopted?? She looks....." and I cut her off and said, "Just like me, yes I know. Weird, huh!"
And besides, Cambria turned 18 months old today, and isn't that a little old to be blaming hair falling out on childbirth/hormones? Ahhh, if only the explanation would be that simple!
And then I was at a birthday party with Cambria yesterday. Her first princess birthday party that she was invited to- and not her brothers! The party was for the other girl in town with the same name, and C had so much fun there! She ran around playing the whole time and was giggling and laughing. It was so cute to watch her there! So one of the other moms who I know a little bit & am FB friends with asked me if we used an egg donor with C, because she looks just like our family. I'm assuming she meant that we must have chosen an egg donor who looks like our family and plus it would be Dave's biological child.
The funny thing is....before C came along, I had gone to the infertility specialist a couple times, and was going to do IVF but they strongly recommended that we use an egg donor. I picked out our egg donor, and she looked nothing like Dave, me, or our sons. So it's funny that while we didn't care if our baby looked like us, that we ended up with this precious baby girl that looks like us.
Why didn't we go through with the IVF you might be asking? The egg donor was in another cycle with another couple, and so we had to wait until she was done and recovered from their cycle to start our cycle. After having time to think and wait, D said he would prefer we adopt. Is that interesting or not? He would prefer to adopt where the child would have no biological relation to either of us (and thus, an even field of sorts) rather than do IVF with an egg donor, and the child would be biologically his. And then after having my hysterectomy last May, my reproductive organs were in bad shape. The feeling was I would have not have gotten pregnant with IVF and wasted that money.
It is all in God's hands. You make plans, and God laughs. He knows. He knows us so well.
Thursday, March 13, 2014
Sunday, March 9, 2014
Dove
Someone posted or shared one of those Face.book quizzes (i.e. Which real housewife are you? Which vegetable would you be? What is your IQ? How many kids will you have? Which animal are you?)
I just looked at the which animal are you quiz...it is based on the week you were born. I got a dove. Then I started reading the description (kind of like your horoscope). Part of it was true, part of it was way off. I loved this section, though: You dislike hypocrisy and tend to shirk away from hypocrites. They can never be in your good books, no matter what.
Wow, that is spot on! (If you've ever read any of my ranting posts about my lovely SIL, you'll agree!)
I can't stand hypocrites.
But I do like doves. Real doves, and Dove chocolates! ;)
I just looked at the which animal are you quiz...it is based on the week you were born. I got a dove. Then I started reading the description (kind of like your horoscope). Part of it was true, part of it was way off. I loved this section, though: You dislike hypocrisy and tend to shirk away from hypocrites. They can never be in your good books, no matter what.
Wow, that is spot on! (If you've ever read any of my ranting posts about my lovely SIL, you'll agree!)
I can't stand hypocrites.
But I do like doves. Real doves, and Dove chocolates! ;)
Saturday, March 8, 2014
Spring Break!
I had said in a few posts back that I was going to try and not dwell on my SIL and her ridiculous, self-centered, narcissistic behavior. I've actually been doing pretty well! (Believe it or not!) Someone sent this little poster to me today on FB, and I am posting it here because I think it is so true. It is tied to my resolution to not dwell on her behavior and "misunderstanding" me. I can waste hours and hours being upset and/or trying to talk to her and trying to make her see my point of view, but it won't matter. She is committed to "misunderstanding" me. She is incapable of putting herself in anyone else's shoes, especially someone who she has wronged. She will never admit that she has ever done anything wrong, so I've had to take a step back and learn to be OK without ever receiving that apology. Since I posted about it last, I've actually been happier and not so upset?angry?affected?pissed off? about her behavior towards me and my family. And it feels so much better.
I always thought if I stopped being upset about her antics, then that meant that I forgave her and essentially gave her permission to treat me like crap. If I stopped bitching about her bad behavior, that that meant I was basically saying it was OK that she was like that. But actually, that's not true. I'm not saying it's OK. I'm saying that's how she is, and I have to just let it go for my own happiness.
Interesting little tidbit....her only child is moving to another country in a few months! D's SIL has stage-4 cancer, and her only child is moving out of the country. If that were me, I would be upset if any of my children moved out of the country when my stage-4 cancer came back. I'm actually gonna give her a pass on this one and bite my tongue. Karma is a bitch. And I don't want to mess with Karma.
OK onto a happy topic.....Cambria's birthmom J and I were texting the other day. She texted me and said she couldn't thank me enough for keeping Allana in contact with her. Yes, she still calls Cambria by the name she named her on her original birth certificate. What can I do about it? I think she misses the baby she knew who was Allana, rather than the 17-month old baby named Cambria. I reminded her that we promised to have an open adoption with her when we were at the hospital, and I intend to keep that promise! That's the kind of person I am- I am honest. And I wear my heart on my sleeve (If that wasn't painfully obvious! lol)
And.....yesterday was the last day of the 3rd quarter at school. I'm pretty sure that Zack and Jake both got straight A's! Yeah!
We are on spring break! Let the springing and breaking begin?? No! That's not how it goes! lol! Let the fun, rest and relaxation begin! That's more like it! :)
Tuesday, March 4, 2014
One Month Old
Cambria's new little sister is one month old tomorrow! I can't believe it! Her due date was actually today, which was easy for me to remember because today is my dad's birthday. It's so weird that she's already been in this world for a month! I'm Facebook friends with the new adoptive parents, and have gotten to see a bunch of pictures of Cambria's new sister. The sisters don't look too much alike. This is the adoptive parent's first baby. It is so sweet to see them with her- their first baby. I'm so happy for them that they are finally parents.
We are babysitting my parent's puppy for them while they are out celebrating my dad's birthday. Interestngly enough, their new puppy and Cambria's new sister have the same name! ;)
(Which is the female version of Zachary's middle name which I loved, so I gave Zack the male version of the name!)
Ahhh.....such a small world!
Anyways, Zack starts baseball practice again on Saturday. Here we go again! And then I'll have all 3 boys in baseball (Zack's season starts earlier), and each boy will have 2 games and a practice every week! And that means my already pathetic blogging schedule will get even more infrequent. For some of you, this will be a good thing! lol
Happy March, everyone!
We are babysitting my parent's puppy for them while they are out celebrating my dad's birthday. Interestngly enough, their new puppy and Cambria's new sister have the same name! ;)
(Which is the female version of Zachary's middle name which I loved, so I gave Zack the male version of the name!)
Ahhh.....such a small world!
Anyways, Zack starts baseball practice again on Saturday. Here we go again! And then I'll have all 3 boys in baseball (Zack's season starts earlier), and each boy will have 2 games and a practice every week! And that means my already pathetic blogging schedule will get even more infrequent. For some of you, this will be a good thing! lol
Happy March, everyone!
Sunday, March 2, 2014
A Little Funny
Hahaha! It went to pay for shoes for me and all those hairbows for my daughter! (And all of my sons are obsessed with those Un.der Ar.mour hoodies, which aren't cheap.)
I've been snapchatting with J, Cambria's birthmom, lately. It's been fun! Although, it's hard to get a picture of the little miss lately, because she is ALL over the place! And she walks fast, so she's hard to get to stand still while I snap a picture.
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