Big Sister

Cambria is now officially a big sister!  Her baby sister was born last night, and is a tiny little peanut!  I've seen pictures, and she is so beautiful!  (But I knew based on what Cambria's older birth brothers and sisters and Cambria look like that this baby would be beautiful!)

The girls are 16.5 months apart.  Cambria's older brother is just 9 months and 3 weeks older than Cambria.  So that makes 3 siblings in 2 years 2 months and 1 week.   I don't know how her body did it.  Mine certainly wouldn't have done this well with 3 back-to-back pregnancies.  But her birth mom is strong- physically and emotionally.

This may sound weird, but if I am being totally honest, this new adoption has left me feeling a little sad, like my family and I have lost a little piece of ourselves with Cambria's biological sibling not coming to live with us.  My husband has said that I act like I am the one who is making the heartbreaking, difficult decision to place my baby for adoption.

I talked to my mom tonight, the only one I can really tell my feelings to about this whole thing (except for random, anonymous people who read my blog!  HA!)  (and except for my husband, but see his response to this whole situation above), and my mom and I both said we feel bad for Cambria's birth mom.  We feel bad for her having to go thru this gut-wrenching experience twice, and in such a short period of time.  Yes, she is an adult, and yes, she made the decisions to do things that resulted in this, but still.  But still.  She was in labor by herself, and the thought of that made me so sad.  I was in labor surrounded by my husband and parents.  I told her if I lived closer, I would have been there by her side.  She said she knows that, and thank you.

Anyways, the new adoptive mom texted me pictures and updates.  I'm so glad we have this relationship so the girls can be in each other's lives when they are older.  :)

Ahhhh…..adoption.  I've heard it described as the gift that keeps on giving (Unfortunately not always in a good way.)  So far we have been lucky and blessed to have a good open adoption with Cambria's birth family.

Oh, on a slightly different note….one of my birth mom friends posted a link to this video made my K.ay Jew.elers.  In it, this adoptive couple is waiting in the waiting room of an adoption agency, and the husband gives the wife this necklace to celebrate becoming a mother.  Then the adoption worker comes in and hands them their new perfect baby.  As if poof it's that easy!!

The birth moms who saw that video were not happy- they were totally left out of the equation!  What the heck?!  Where was the birth mom?  The woman who is responsible for giving these 2 people their happy-ever-after ending?  Someone commented and said notice the birth mom is comfortably (for the adoptive parents) absent. My friend commented that she too was traded a necklace for her baby.

I'm an adoptive parent, and I didn't even like commercial.  The birth mom should be getting the necklace, she is the one who sacrificed.  We did give Cambria's birth mom a bracelet, it had a heart charm on it to symbolize that she would always be in our hearts.  I didn't get any jewelry from my husband (he said I got the baby, that should be enough!  And he is right.)  Someone else commented that the husband is simply giving her a piece of jewelry as a "push present", like a lot of women receive after childbirth, that it has nothing to do with adoption, but with the act of becoming a mother.  My husband did give me a "push present" after I had my 3rd son.  I was joking that in all the romance novels and celebrity births that the husband got the wife a "push present" and where was mine?!  He got me a necklace and ring with my son's birthstone on it.  And it very well may have been from K.ay Jew.elers!  Lol I'm serious.  I'm gonna have to go and see if I can find the box!

Anyways, please pray for Cambria's birth mom……that she can find peace in her adoption decision and that she never has to go thru this again.