We had 2 interesting conversations today with strangers. Dave and I were at lunch with our kids today, and this man behind us turned around and said very loudly in Dave's ear, "So let me guess....the wife wouldn't let you stop until you got your girl?!?!" And Dave replied, "Yep, pretty much!"
This comment was interesting for a number of reasons, but one of them being he assumed Cambria was our biological daughter. (Another reason being that his man implied Dave had no say in the growing of our family?!)
Then we went to the Verizon store (the last place I ever want to go) with all 4 kids. Call us crazy or brave or just plain dumb! My oldest son finally earned his cell phone. He's like the last kid in 6th grade at his school to get his phone, but whatevs. Anyways, it always takes forever to get out of that place. And the kids get antsy (and so does mom!). As we were leaving, our salesman says, "wow, you guys sure have your hands full! Are all these your kids?" I hear that comment so much that it annoys me so I kind of smirked and said something about how all the sons were on the journey to add a daughter to our family and God really wanted us to have 3 sons before he blessed us with a daughter. So the salesman looks at Cambria and says, "Well, you guys can just ADOPT another baby girl in about 10 years or so!"
Wow....there was that phrase that I hate so much "you can JUST adopt"........like it's so easy! As if!
And that he assumed Cambria was our biological daughter.
Then I started thinking about adding another child to our family in 10 years! When I'm 53? No way. I know there are plenty of adoptive parents that are in their 50's and I applaud them. This mama would want to adopt another daughter now. I was so much more tired this time around with night-time feedings when I was 41. I can't imagine 53. And Dave is definitely not up for doing the infant thing in his 50's.
Anyways, I saw this post on FB today in one of the adoption groups asking about how people's experiences with trans-racial adoption have been. We were open to adoption children of other races, we just happened to get chosen by caucasian parents. We also didn't bother to correct either one of these men today and tell them that we had, in fact, already gone down the adoption trail with our daughter. Why? We certainly don't try to hide the fact that she is adopted, but every person out there doesn't need to know that piece of info.
I just wonder what Cambria will do when she is old enough to understand these comments. Will she correct the person that says we can "just adopt" a baby down the road and assumes that she is our biological child?
In other news, I just read a blog post by a woman who just recently adopted a baby that was born at the hospital that I used to drive by every single day on my way to med school when I lived in California!! And my BFF from med school used to work in the lab at that hospital! It brought back a flood of memories for me...when I was young and full of energy! And I was so career-minded and only had one goal in mind...to become a doctor. I had no intentions of getting married or having a baby (let alone 4!). That same BFF that worked at that hospital always said in med school that she wanted to stop taking her birth control pills that day and have 4 sons! That always made me want to go home and take an extra birth control pill that day! HA! And the funny thing is....life is what happens when you are busy making plans. You make plans, and God laughs. That same friend has 2 kids-a son and a daughter. And she has told me how much she LOVES having a daughter. (See? I'm not so crazy for desperately wanting a daughter.) And I have 4 kiddos when I used to think I would have none.
Anyways~ the weather has been so beautiful here, we've been out and about enjoying it. We had our youngest son's birthday party last night. He had so much fun. We went to Disneyland over MLK weekend. I was supposed to run in that Disney.land Tinker.bell 1/2 marathon. Well, of course I got sick over Christmas break and am still not 100% back to normal despite taking a ton of antibiotics, cold meds, etc. So I could barely walk around the Happiest Place on Earth, let alone run/walk 13.1 miles!
Sigh....there's always next year, right?! Silver lining is the kids had a blast at Disney.land and CA Adven.ture. And that's all that matters. :)
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