Yesterday Cambria's birth father's mother (her paternal birth grandma) texted me and asked me to call her last night. It was the first time I've spoken with her since we left the hospital 3 years and 1 month ago. Sure, we have texted and messaged on Facebook and mailed each other pictures, but haven't spoken on the phone since the hospital in NC. We had a great conversation and got along well, she said she enjoyed talking to me and to call her again if I wanted and we could chat. :)
She said she loves getting the pictures of Cambria and to give her a hug and a kiss from her. I have always referred to her as Grandma and then her first name. I don't think my mom or MIL were upset by that. I hope not. Because she is technically my daughter's grandmother and the more people who love and care about her, the better. She told me she is so happy we are raising Cambria and Cambria seems so happy. I told her that if I was being perfectly honest, I was happy and grateful that she was so supportive of the adoption. She could have had her son contest the adoption and helped him raise Cambria like she is doing with 2 of her other grandchildren. I told her that had me a little scared until the adoption was finalized that they might take her back. She said she thought about raising her before she met me, and then when she met me in the hospital she told her husband that she loved me, and that I was the perfect mother for Cambria.
Oh my goodness. Cue the tears! Thank goodness this wonderful woman was in my corner!
Tuesday, November 3, 2015
Sunday, November 1, 2015
November Already?!
I officially skipped blogging in October. Oops. To say this month was busy is an understatement. Fall break in Phoenix, baseball games for my son's travel team almost every weekend, Halloween festivities- party here on Friday after school for my 3 sons and their friends, then a party for grown-ups that Dave and I went to, then school carnival yesterday afternoon, then trick-or-treating last night, and our anniversary a couple weeks ago, and school tests and quizzes and homework, and I could go on, but I won't bore you!
This Halloween was kind of bittersweet. Cambria is 3, and really "got it" about the concept of trick-or-treating. "Trick or treat! Thank you! Mommy, I got candy!"
Oh my gosh. So cute! Adorbs! And she was the cutest Cinderella ever! (Also said by every other mom whose kid was Cinderella this year! lol!)
And then this was the first year my 8th grader did not go trick-or-treating. So sad. He went to a Halloween party at his friend's house with some of their friends from school. And so it begins. After this school year, only 4 more years and he will be off to college. So weird to even think that is going to be happening in the next 5 years!
Oh, and to throw a little adoption talk into this post, I had the adoption talk with Cambria last week....the 3 year old version of it. I had already told her she was adopted when she was younger, so of course she didn't understand me. But this time she got bits and pieces of it. She asks to look at the picture of her birth parents holding her at the hospital on the day we took her home a lot now. It's on her dresser. And she says that's my mom I grew in her tummy and I had my toy in my mouth (toy= pacifier) and then I say and they gave you to us to be your mommy and daddy and she says and they gave me a home.
OMG it almost brings tears to my eyes. So far she hasn't asked why. But I'm sure that's coming in the future. I love her so much, and I don't want her to feel hurt or sad.
I hope everyone had a wonderful October! I can't believe there are only 2 months left in 2015!
This Halloween was kind of bittersweet. Cambria is 3, and really "got it" about the concept of trick-or-treating. "Trick or treat! Thank you! Mommy, I got candy!"
Oh my gosh. So cute! Adorbs! And she was the cutest Cinderella ever! (Also said by every other mom whose kid was Cinderella this year! lol!)
And then this was the first year my 8th grader did not go trick-or-treating. So sad. He went to a Halloween party at his friend's house with some of their friends from school. And so it begins. After this school year, only 4 more years and he will be off to college. So weird to even think that is going to be happening in the next 5 years!
Oh, and to throw a little adoption talk into this post, I had the adoption talk with Cambria last week....the 3 year old version of it. I had already told her she was adopted when she was younger, so of course she didn't understand me. But this time she got bits and pieces of it. She asks to look at the picture of her birth parents holding her at the hospital on the day we took her home a lot now. It's on her dresser. And she says that's my mom I grew in her tummy and I had my toy in my mouth (toy= pacifier) and then I say and they gave you to us to be your mommy and daddy and she says and they gave me a home.
OMG it almost brings tears to my eyes. So far she hasn't asked why. But I'm sure that's coming in the future. I love her so much, and I don't want her to feel hurt or sad.
I hope everyone had a wonderful October! I can't believe there are only 2 months left in 2015!
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