Not My Typical Kind of Post/ New Year's Resolution in a Round-About Sort of Way

I have only blogged once this month!  Unbelievable!  Maybe it just means I've been so busy living and enjoying my life and running all over the place this season that I haven't had time to sit down and type out something.  Or that this is a public blog and I can't just blurt out everything I want to on this blog like how I think that Dave's SIL's behavior towards me is just horrific, but she has cancer so I can't say anything to her about it because then I look like the bad guy.  What kind of a person finds out that I am having surgery (back in May) and she didn't even tell Dave's brother!!!  And when I told her I was having a total hysterectomy (and ovaries removed too- I had a mass on my ovary and a spot on my uterus on the ultrasound), she (who is a cancer patient herself) didn't even acknowledge that I was having surgery!  Didn't wish me well or offer prayers or ANYTHING!  Dave's brother had no idea about my surgery until 5 weeks later when my husband told him.  Sad, huh?  What if I had ovarian cancer?  She hasn't talked to me since May (when I told her I was having surgery).....7 months! 

Or that I always try to treat my friends really well and I thought I was really close friends with someone, and they totally blew off something important I invited them to, and then was hurt that I didn't invite them to something else later on!  And I still ended up feeling like the bad guy.  Because that is the type of person I am.  I never like to hurt anyone else's feelings- even if they hurt mine first.

But then I stop and look at all the good things and good people that I do have in my life.  And there are a lot of them.  I had a wonderful Christmas and birthday this week.

I just wish that I had developed a thicker skin for dealing with people who treat me like crap.  There is a saying....it goes something like,  "Don't make people a priority when they only treat you like an option".

Maybe I am just reflecting on these types of things (unfair/unequal inter-personal relationships) because I am a year older (and wiser?  haha!)  and also my BFF's mom found out on Christmas day that she has a huge lung mass....lung cancer is never really a good thing......and I am really starting to better prioritize the things in life that matter?  Life is short, and it's definitely too short for people who really don't give a crap about me to get to be a part of my life.  I only have so many hours in the day, and I should be spending that precious time with my family and good friends.  As soon as I hung up with my BFF after getting this bad news about her mom, I called my parents and was so happy I made them quit smoking when I was in kindergarten!  I guilted them after this guy came to school to talk about how bad smoking is, and showed us ugly pictures of nasty-looking lungs.  I cried and told my parents I was going to be an orphan if they didn't quit smoking!

So my resolution for the new year?   Nope, it's not gonna be your typical "I am going to work out and lose weight" resolution.  My resolution is to spend more time with the people that love me and treat me well, and to spend less time and energy and attention on people that don't really care about me and make me feel bad.

But I am planning to work out more and lose weight in 2014!  Starting with this crazy Disneyland half-marathon in January.  I will post a pic of me with my medal after the race!  Well, I mean I hope to post a pic!  HA!  I am not the greatest at posting pictures to this blog.

This year 2013 did have it's share of interesting and exciting moments.....started off by battling mono, then having Cambria's adoption be finalized (YAY!), then dealing with pneumonia, then the ovarian mass, then a total hysterectomy/ ovary removal, then Hawaii (YAY!), then Zack making the All-Star baseball team (YAY!) and his team winning the district championships (YAY!  YAY!) and then making the fall travel baseball team and his team winning the end of season tournament (YAY!) and then Zack and Jake both getting straight-A's for the 1st and 2nd quarters of the school year!  Oh, and how could I forget Dave and me celebrating 15 years of marriage and 20 years of being together!  (Triple YAY!!)   And Cambria celebrating her 1st birthday.  :)

Happy New Year 2014 to everyone.  Sorry if this post wasn't my usual "life is all rainbows and sunshine and unicorns and everything is perfect".........sometimes those kind of posts are annoying too!  My wish for everyone is to have good health this new year, and to spend more time with the good people in your life.

Merry Christmas From my Darling Daughter!

Gah!  I still love saying that.... "my daughter"!  And sometimes I still have to pinch myself to make sure that I really do, in fact, have a daughter!

My mom mentioned to me the other day that I haven't blogged in a while.  What the what?!    I am becoming like all the other adoptive parent bloggers who start blogging less and less once their baby is in their arms.

I can't believe Christmas is next week!  We still don't have our tree up yet!  I have, however been busy doing other fun things and had BUNCO at my house last week, and a holiday lunch yesterday at my house with my girlfriends from my exercise classes.  I fed them cupcakes!  HA!  I'm trying to fatten them up so they don't make me look so bad!  Just kidding!  (I really did feed them these amazing cupcakes made by the same lady who made Cambria's birthday cake.)

My birthday is coming up soon too...sooner than I'd like...less than 2 weeks away!  I am NOT happy or thrilled in any way to be turning 43.  Yikes.  43 already?!

Sorry for the absence.  Cambria's birth sister should make her arrival in about 2 months.  I am so excited to see if she looks like Cambria or their birth brother!